When it comes to my small business, until recently, I wasn’t really familiar with adversity.
The setbacks I was familiar with within my company were things like: paint that didn’t want to cure, my cat going for a walk through my not entirely dried dotcards, orders not arriving at their new home, recipes that didn’t want to work out, spending money on an expensive pigment that turned out to be shit and probably a few other setbacks that I can’t remember.
Those who have been with me from the beginning might remember that after I resigned as a teacher, ready to start my small business adventure, I found out I was pregnant.
Setback? Or not?
Well, according to most people around me it was a setback. When I told people I found out I was pregnant after I resigned to start my adventure as a small business owner, most of them said: ”Ohh wow, bad timing!”
After a while I even started to tell people it was bad timing. Which is weird because I knew with every cell in my body that this was the right decision. I thought that if I would say it is bad timing, they wouldn’t have to say it.
So I created this story I told people; how me resigning was such terrible timing.
One day I was talking to a former colleague of mine and in a reaction to my story she said: ”Wooowww, that is amazing! Now you have all the time to figure out what you want with your business and you decide for yourself how hard you work and when you take your maternity leave”.
This lady said what I needed to hear.
She said the things that I should have said to myself from the beginning.
I could have created a whole different story for myself. This wasn’t either good or bad timing, this just “was”. And it was up to me to make the best of it. Because starting my own business felt friggin awesome.
I reminded myself that a situation just “is”.
My thoughts about the situation make it a setback or not.
When things aren’t going the way I had planned them to go I can feel anger or disappointment at first, but after that I try to ask myself what I can learn from the situation.
Sometimes I get angry and then I have to laugh at myself for getting angry about something that just “is”.
If Boba Fett ruins all my dot cards with his little feet, I get angry. I can stay angry, but I really don’t see the point. It is not going to change what happened.
You see …. easy as pie, right?
And then … “shit” hit the fan!
I signed up for the event Creative Life last year. Creative Life should have taken place in March. The organization decided to postpone the event due to Corona. The new date would be in May.
Then our government decided that all big events would be banned until June 1. Creative Life got canceled.
I will not go into every detail, but let’s say I will be losing a big part of my savings. There’s also an option to join in November. But to be honest, I don’t want to join in November. In November I want to be spending all my time on my new “thing” (which I will tell you more about soon).
There was only one reason why I would consider attending in November. And it was a BIG reason; NOT LOSING MY DAMN MONEY!!
I let myself be angry for a day about the whole situation. I accepted the anger and let it be. For a day. After that day it was time to have a good look at the situation and to listen to my other feelings.
So, you see, two things were fighting for my attention.
My intuition was screaming at me to follow my new dream.
My intuition was also telling me not to join only for the reason of losing my money.
My fear was telling me to not lose that damn money!!!
My fear: ”Imagine losing all that money Simone. It would be such a financial blow. And you would have to come up with all these ideas to make money to compensate for that financial blow”.
Well thank you fear! CHALLENGE ACCEPTED!!
And thank you intuition, you always tell me what to do.
Sometimes it is difficult to listen to your intuition, because your fear is screaming really loudly.
The people who have read my post about fear, know how I think about fear.
Fear is your friend, but know when to listen to your friend and when not to listen.
The incredible Marie Forleo also talks about fear as a guide; the bigger the fear for a decision you have to take, the more you have to realize that this is the best decision 🙂
I decided not to join Creative Life in November and accept the financial blow. I put on my money cap (something I learned from my coach Babbette Tasseron) and started brainstorming ideas to make money.
And did the ideas come?? OH HELL YEAH!
I even accelerated my new business idea. And it feels good!
A situation is what it is.
Shakespeare already taught us: “Nothing is either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
I learned from Eckhart Tolle that if a situation is “shit” (Eckhart Tolle doesn’t use words like shit. I do 🙂 ) you can do two things:
If you can’t change the situation, accept it. Otherwise, change it!
Oh! Earlier I was talking about shit that was hitting the fan.
Babette shared a funny quote on her Instagram a while back:
”De shit van nu is de mest voor later”.
Which roughly translates as:
”When shit happens, turn it into fertilizer” (by Kute Blackson).
You see, shit can be a blessing, if you let it be 😉